A friend recently put a quote from a book she was reading on Facebook: “…when her husband came home from work he was greeted not by his children’s mother, and not by the housekeeper, but by the woman he married”. (Talking about the wife of the 50’s changing her clothes before her husband came home)”. I’m not sure what book she was reading, but this little quote sparked a whole lot of comments.
Most of the people who responded were women… and they agreed with the sentiment of the quote. It’s a nice way of showing your husband you were thinking of him during the day. The concept was not really about being a 50’s Housewife, a Trophy Wife or a Stepford Wife – perfect and focused only on her man. I think it really brings to light how easy it is as a stay-at-home mom to surrender to sweats and teeshirts all the time. Now, there is nothing wrong with doing this sometimes… I do it all the time, and that’s sort of the problem. I asked my husband and he said although he always thinks I’m pretty, it is especially nice when I put a little makeup on or wear “normal clothes” when he gets home. The more I thought about it, the more I agreed with it. It’s a simple and easy way to feel better as a woman to not always be seen just as Mom… but as Liz (it’s weird to even write my name because I’m called Mom so often).
What do you think of this quote? Do you think it’s sexist? Do you think it focuses on outer beauty when all that should matter is inner beauty? Do you agree with it? Does it go both ways (and by the way, I think it does, since my husband recently shaved off the goatee he’s been sporting for a year because I thought it was “yucky”)?
I’m anxious to hear your thoughts!